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⚖️ The Rule Of Thirds: Maintaining Balance In Pursuit Of Goals
Published 5 months ago • 4 min read
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In the world of athletics, there’s a principle known as the Rule of Thirds: a third of the time you feel great, a third you feel okay, and a third you struggle.
This rule doesn’t just apply to athletes—it’s a powerful framework for anyone pursuing big goals.
Understanding and embracing this concept can help you maintain balance and resilience, even when the going gets tough.
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."
- Winston Churchill
Why The Rule Of Thirds Matters
The Rule of Thirds reminds us that struggle is a natural part of any worthwhile journey. It’s easy to become discouraged during the difficult phases, but these moments are just as essential as the times when everything is going smoothly. Accepting this balance helps prevent burnout and fosters long-term perseverance.
Which season of life, or third, are you currently in right now?
When you’re in the difficult third, remind yourself that it’s a normal part of the process. Struggles aren’t signs of failure; they’re opportunities for growth and learning.
Example: If you’re working on a project and feel stuck, use this time to identify gaps in your knowledge or skills and seek out ways to improve.
2. Celebrate The Highs
During the times when you’re feeling great, take a moment to acknowledge and celebrate your progress. This reinforces positive behavior and keeps you motivated.
Example: After completing a milestone, reward yourself with something that rejuvenates you—a break, a treat, or simply some time to reflect on your achievements.
3. Stay Steady In The Middle
When you’re in the middle third—where everything feels just okay—focus on maintaining consistency. This is where discipline plays a crucial role in keeping you on track.
Example: On days when you feel neither high nor low, concentrate on sticking to your routines and habits, knowing that these steady efforts are key to long-term success.
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- Fernando Ferrera, Living Better subscriber
Remember, progress isn’t about feeling great all the time—it’s about continuing to show up, regardless of where you are in the cycle. Embrace the highs, work through the lows, and keep steady in between. This balanced approach is what will carry you to your goals.
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