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đź‘Ą The Lost Art Of Deep Conversations
Published about 1 year ago • 5 min read
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Hey Reader,
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The modern era of connection is challenging.
We communicate in texts and constantly consume ten-second video clips.
We race through our days, juggling obligations to family, career, and friends.
Sometimes it feels like we communicate in fragments, never truly expressing ourselves or exploring life fully.
But there is a better way.
How can we get back to seeing and discussing the world in more depth? Let’s take a deeper look at the lost art of conversation.
Our digital world, though convenient, often strips away the nuances and emotional depth of face-to-face interactions. The reliance on screens can lead to a sense of isolation and a craving for genuine connections. This is where the power of deep conversation shines.
Deep conversations do more than just exchange information. They build connections, foster empathy, and promote understanding. In a digital era where brief and impersonal exchanges are the norm, taking time for in-depth discussions can be a refreshing and enriching experience.
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"True conversation is an interpenetration of worlds, a genuine intercourse of souls, which doesn’t merely refresh us but liberates and transforms us."
- Martin Buber
Strategies For Rekindling Deep Conversations
Embrace Active Listening: Focus fully on the speaker. Show interest, ask open-ended questions, and resist the urge to plan your response while they're still talking.
Create The Right Environment: Choose a comfortable and quiet setting conducive to conversation. A relaxed atmosphere can encourage openness and sharing.
Disconnect To Connect: When engaging in a conversation, turn off or put away digital devices. Eliminate distractions to be fully present in the moment.
Explore New Topics: Go beyond the usual topics. Discuss areas like personal aspirations, life experiences, or thought-provoking questions to spark deeper discussions.
Be Vulnerable: Share your thoughts and feelings honestly. Vulnerability can encourage others to open up, fostering a deeper connection.
Practice Empathy: Try to understand the other person's perspective, even if it differs from your own. Empathy can deepen connection and understanding in conversations.
Schedule Regular Conversations: Make deep conversations a regular part of your life. Set aside time to catch up with friends or family members on a deeper level.
POLL: When was the last time you had a truly deep and stimulating convo with a loved one?
Engaging in deep conversations can significantly enhance our mental and emotional well-being. It nurtures our relationships and provides a sense of connection that's often lacking in our fast-paced digital world. These interactions can be thought-provoking, comforting, and incredibly rewarding.
This week, initiate a deep conversation with someone. It could be a family member, a friend, or even a colleague. Notice how this interaction makes you feel and the impact it has on your relationship.
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Dive into heartwarming stories and inspiring journeys from fellow Living Better members!
This week, we're highlighting Keisha's sweet story:
He doesn’t come home daily or weekly with flowers for me. He doesn’t send me long paragraph texts professing his love, and he isn’t traditionally overly romantic.
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For years, that’s the kind of relationship I thought I wanted, but in reality, it’s not what I needed.
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Here’s the type of man he is. He’s the type of man who pushes the buggy in the grocery store while keeping an eye on my purse.
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He opens my door in the car, always. He carries the bags into the house when we come home.
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He cooks dinner and tells me to sit and relax. He worries about my well-being and makes sure I take care of myself.
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He cleans, and if it’s the early morning, he leaves me in bed to get more sleep because he feels like I need it.
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He randomly comes home with chocolate he thinks I’ll like because he knows I’m a chocoholic. He says 'okay' 99.9% of the time if I say I want to do something.
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He pushes every button I have sometimes, but he also makes me laugh until I can’t breathe and have tears in my eyes.
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He randomly holds my hand, and when I catch him looking at me, he tells me he thinks I’m pretty and has the patience of a saint.
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So his love may not be in material objects or words, but it’s in his actions.
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I’ll always be thankful for his love, realizing it’s just what I needed, and for him pushing the buggy."
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